Thursday, August 13, 2009

Another IF lesson: normal is relative.

I think at various times in our lives, we look to the world outside and compare ourselves, our lives and the like to get a sense for what is normal.

Last week, we got the results of our Karyotyping and RPL testing.

The results: normal.
3 miscarriages, 3 IVFs, and still no child... but we're normal!

I can't help but take a look at the world around me and think that it is nuts to even use the world normal when talking about us and our situation.

When I was younger, I thought that at age 35 it would be normal to be married, have a house, and have a few kids.

Instead, shots, egg retrievals and miscarriages are the norm.

So, I have learned yet another lesson for this mess: IF has defined a new kind of normal for me.

What we consider normal certainly is relative.


MJ said...

Oh how I know...I'm sorry our lives have been transformed by IF.


theworms said...

Great post - I don't even know what normal is anymore.

IF has opened my eyes to a whole new side of life - I don't if I'm ever going to get used to it.

Fran said...

Yes..normal shouldn't really have a meanign at all I think. I still hope your results will bring you a child soon. Love, Fran